“Being stubborn can be a good thing. Being stubborn can be a bad thing. It just depends on how you use it.” – Willie Aames.
I keep a to-do list that I update daily, but I tell myself the things on the list are simply suggestions for how I can spend my day. I also put more tasks on the to-do list than I can possible accomplish in a day. That’s because I like choices – and the satisfaction I get each time I cross off, with a big black pen, a completed chore.
But the minute I feel I have to do something, pretty much guarantees it is not likely to get done. I turn into a stubborn mule that won’t budge.
On the other hand, tell me I can’t do something, and hell would have to freeze over before I wouldn’t do it. .
I know I’m not alone in this kind of weird behavior. For example, just yesterday, when my next door neighbor and her teenage daughter were visiting, the subject of to-do lists came up.
The daughter laughed, and said that putting something down on her mom’s list made it the one thing she absolutely wouldn’t do.
Mom shook her head, but then said, “She’s right.”
It makes me wonder who hot-wired our brains? Why is it that when someone tells me “No,” I immediately think “Yes?” Why is it that when someone tells me “You can’t,” I do it? Or when they say I “have to,” I don’t?
I just know that “no,” “can’t” and “have to” are fighting words in my world (more…)